Son is learning about descriptive writing in his integrated writing class. The teacher is encouraging to choose superhero as their character to improve their imagination. I jokingly asked him to describe his mommy. After a paragraph long about how wonderful his mom (me) is, son starts to describe the bad traits.
He confidently said “I am quite sure I inherit the clumsiness and forgetfulness from you.” I was laughing hard then asked him to prove it. Son turned to his Dad, quietly driving and listening to our conversation, asking his Dad to back his statement up. His Dad chose to focus on driving. I told him he won’t find back up from his Dad for his comment on me. Reason is simple. His Dad knows the consequences.
Next day I asked son to describe about his Dad. Son politely declined saying he is sleepy and tired after class. Upon my insistence he said his Dad is a very caring Father. No further comment was made for he wanted to rest. I tried another approach by asking what character of his Dad he would change if he could do. Without hesitation he replied “I would not change anything for he will no longer be my Dad after change”
What a compliment!
When you love someone you just love the way they are, love their good and their bad. Kids know it but sometimes adults like us forgot. Let’s strive to be the parents whom our kids do not want to change anything about.
“I found myself more artistic now, mom.”
The sharing came surprisingly. A year plus ago my son hated art. He struggled in art class and often felt dreadful looking at his drawing or art objects. Countless time I have to tell him the importance of art in life. Not far off art or music is one of the IB subject he needs to take at Grade 12. As matter of fact the line between beauty and ugliness in art is a very thin. No artist can ever win the heart of all the people in the world.
To give him an alternative we put him in music class. The objective is for him to explore his own talent in another field. At least he knows he does not need to stick to art. But the result is better than expected. When art is no longer a worry he starts to enjoy it.
Perhaps this psychological effect works on all of us. We tend to shy away from pressure especially when we are not up to the expectation. However when there is no pressure we may look at different perspective. If you ban kid from taking coffee, one day they may shock you for secretly they have been sipping coffee with their Dad behind your back. Keeping them away from something may do more harm than good. After all as part of the growing up your kid will sometimes go out of the way or sneak in at some dark corners. Don’t let them face the world alone for they may fall hard and never can stand up. But holding their hand to cross the road is not a good approach either. The best way to manage a teenage is to let them try thing by themselves and keep an observant eyes. Be there when they need your advice, tell them right from wrong but don’t stop them from trying. It’s them our little dearest who need to grow up.
People often talk about “trust”. You trust me, I trust you, and we trust each other. Trust is the highest level of believing in someone capability or ability to settle or handle some things. Often in working relationship, in normal life we need to trust our co-worker, our partners. Concern is if trust is a must in a relationship or just a nice thing to have.
Let’s take a working relationship. Very often company will put middle management in between the top men and the staff. They believe having middle manager to supervise the staff, gather feedback, opinions for high level managers is efficient.
Why can’t the staff deal directly with the higher manager? Staff is the one who hand on with daily issue. They know exactly the routine, the system to work. Sometimes middle manager can’t event perform a task of the same level with the staff.
The reason is quite simple. If everyone is reporting to the big boss, the boss will have his handful of issues. Bogged down with the small things boss has no time left to steer the wheel and drive the boat forward into the right direction. Worst of all he has no time to double check on the quality of the work done.
Primary objective of having middle manager is to have someone to manage the workflow. Manage means operate, check and ensure. Why check when you trust someone and leave them to do the job?
There is only one answer: trust is a luxury that no one can afford. You got to live with the fact that your boss will never fully trust you.
Harry is a smart grade 3 boy. Reviewing his score cards the principal decided to recommend Harry to skip Grade 3 and promote to Grade 4. Ms. Tan, from Ministry of Education agreed to let Harry promote to Grade 4 if he can pass an interview with her.
Standing in front of the principal and Ms. Tan, Harry seemed relax and calm. Ms. Tan started to ask Harry:
- Question 1: What do you have in your pants that I don’t? – The principal started to puzzle why Ms. Tan asked such sensitive question to 8 years old boy. Harry answered: “Underwear”. The principal relieved
- Question 2: What happens when man is standing, woman is squatting and the dog is on its hind legs? Principal felt cold sweat on his face. Harry answered: taking a pee.
- Question 3: What starts with a “C” that is hard inside, soft when comes outside with white juice? The principal legs were trembling. Harry confidently said “Coconut”
- Question 4: All right, Ms. Tan said. Here is the final question of your assessment. What word starts with letter “F” ends with letter “K”. It is hot and lots of excitement in between? The principal felt onto his knee. Harry without hesitation told Ms. Tan “Fire Truck”
The principal immediately said “Send Harry to university straight away. I’ve got all questions worng.”
Dubai is one of the world’s richest cities. The city has 1.4 mills population and 1.2 cars on the road every day. It is easy to own a car in Dubai for petrol is cheap and other tax is minimal. In some places like the world’s largest shopping mall Dubai Mall parking is free. Thus you have no reason not to own a car in Dubai.
But the Emirate has a strict rule to ensure the city’s cleanliness. Car on the road must be cleaned. There is a fine for dirty cars traveling inside the city. Thus you hardly spot any muddy, dusty cars on the road. Perhaps Vietnam can use this system to ensure trucks/lorries and cars are cleaned up properly to reduce the air pollution and beautify the cities.
“Fear is a choice” we repeated it thousand times when we are wild awake and even in our dream. Still fear to lose a closed one is there, never go away. We try to move on with daily life, getting ourselves busy with other activities – fear comes every moment we stop for a break. Worst it even comes in the middle of a meeting, a conference or a chat with friend.
We decided to look at thing in a positive way by saying to ourselves “thing has to come will come.” Then we tried to anticipate the outcome, asking ourselves what we can do, what we can’t do, have we missed out anything.
We know the fear comes from our love to that person. The more we love the worst our fear will be.
The father in ‘After Earth” told the son that fears is a choice. You can choose to fear or not to fear. It is a product of human imagination about things will happen in the future. When we got attack by someone we fear we may die from the attack. When we eat unhygienic food we fear we may get sick. Hence fear only comes when we try to predict, foresee the consequences. A baby knowing nothing what will happen next in their life have no fear when climbing the wall, jumping down to the swimming pool or chasing after the German shepherd dog.
There is some sense into this theory. Knowing it does not help us to become fearless anyway. We will still be jumping off the cushion fearing a cockroach dropping down. That’s how human behave.
It is scary when you can do nothing at all for someone you love or someone who is in need of your help. Many times you want to put out your hand, reaching out to them, get them through the toughness for you can’t bear seeing them suffer.
They deserve better things in life, better care, more love. But they can’t for many reasons. And one of those is you can do nothing to help them. You know if you help them out today, they may suffer even more tomorrow. You know the best way to help a man is to teach them how to fish not to give them a fish. Still you can’t bear seeing them crying, hungry, and suffering.
When you do nothing at all for the one you love, you hurt more.
Based on a research and study cybercrime is alarmingly increased lately. In 2012 cybercriminal rate has increased 42% over 2011. The whole globe was experienced 102 successful attack per week in 2012 in comparison to 72 successful attack in 2011 and 50 in 2010.
The average annualized cost of cybercrime incurred by a benchmark sample of U.S organizations was 8.9 million dollar. Malware (Malfunction software) for Android mobile platform raised 6 folds in 2012 versus 2011.
The common cyber-attacks are:
- Social engineering
- Software privacy.
Among those social engineering is highly popular. It means con artists, con men or scam artists. Social engineering is a non-technical kind of intrusion that relies heavily on human interaction and often involves tricking other people to break normal security procedure. Social engineering likes to use email that triggers curiosity or emotions from readers. Beware!
Every boy in Vietnam loves to play soccer either street soccer or proper training session or in school with friends. Teenage soccer tournaments are always exciting. The players are young and pure. All they want is a good game, not competing for a place in some clubs or in national squad.
But it has changed lately. The leader wants to see return on investment and that means – win. The pressure makes head coach searching for solution to ensure win. Can’t buy player due to no fund and no legal ground, they found source for mercenaries through contacts with soccer training schools.
When season comes, soccer classes will select their top players to send to the elite team which they have agreement with. Selected kids are overwhelmed with opportunities to represent a team in tournament. Parents are happy seeing kids’ progress. School coach is happy with their players’ new set of experience and exposure. The head coach of the elite team certainly is satisfied with his squad. At least he can ensure some wins to please his bosses.
The solution seems perfect for every party but have no benefit to grow successors for national team. To grow Vietnam soccer needs to have proper long term training and development not instantaneous success for someone’s fame and glory.